SORRY. NOT SORRY.

 I never got hung up on apologizing too much. After all, I've always felt actions speak louder than words.  As nice as it may be to hear those two special words — “I'm sorry” — ultimately, they’re just that: words. Of course, you might have done something you regret, and your apologies might be genuine. But at the end of the day, they don't mean much unless they cause any action and in most cases —they don't. Also, when we are constantly apologizing, we send everyone around us the message that we are in a "Sorry" state and that we can't correct the situation. Saying you are sorry doesn't mean you're wrong. It actually means "I'm sorrowful about what happened". It doesn't mean you are admitting guilt.

"Apologizing sets the conversation up at a disadvantage you don't need."

Most people say sorry when they feel uncomfortable asserting their authority or when they are not confident enough about a decision they've made. Often "sorries" flow as a mixture of empathy and awkwardness. Many surveys proved that women apologize the most. Many women don't realise that apologizing sets the conversation at a disadvantage they don't need. Apologizing follows this awkward look on your face, fluttering eyes and bad posture and maybe the raised shoulder as if to protect yourself from what’s coming and  cringe-y, nervous, jumpy behaviour.

Also, over-apologizing causes us to internalize feelings of guilt for simply being who we are. We may begin with a good intention; Yes, it is important to be simple, sensitive and caring. But often it sends out a wrong signal to others and confuses them.

I mean, when was the last time a politician made a public apology on the heels of some scandal that was strong enough to encourage an entire nation to simply forgive the politician for what he was  apologizing for?

Exactly.

So, here are some tips to help you stop apologizing:

1) Track your apologies.

2) Be aware of what to apologize for.

3) Swap "Sorry" for a silly word.

4) Show gratitude instead.